Dulcet Gatherings: Growth and the value of REST
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This week we had the privilege of hosting our first Dulcet Gatherings event at Myrtle Creek botanical gardens. To compliment the first week of spring, we decided to have a picnic in the garden and chose the topic of growth for discussion. We spent an hour or so discussing some lessons that we have learned through seasons of growth. It was such a blessing to have everyone share lessons with each other. The transparency and authenticity of the women that attended was so refreshing. We wanted to share an excerpt of our discussion for you all.
G R O U N D E D
“Like our lovability and divinity, we must care for and nurture the stories we tell ourselves about our creativity and ability. Just because we didn’t measure up to some standard of achievement doesn’t mean that we don’t possess gifts and talents that only we can bring to the world. Just because someone failed to see the value in what we can create or achieve doesn’t change its worth or ours.” -Brene Brown
Sometimes its impossible NOT to find the value of your work in the in the acceptance or approval of your audience or your clients. Throughout the process of creating we become deeply connected to our art.... and then when you slap a monetary value on it, sum it up into a five sentence bio on your website and add a little criticism from our clients, families or loved ones it can leave you feeling deeply violated that you feel like you just want to quit.
I read something recently by Glennon Doyle that absolutely revolutionized the way I thought of my art and I hope it helps you all as well:
What if the rhythm to the creative life is: Create! Call it good! Rest!
God did not create the seas, then poll the internet about it. God did not create the land, then stand by the land making sure nobody looked sideways at it. God did not tap folks on the back asking them to “like” God’s light. God did not ask anyone outside of Godself if the creation was good enough. God made it—so GOD called it good. Then God moved on and created more good things.
Here we learn that the one who decides whether the creation is good enough is the creator.
The way my art works is this:
I get an idea. It feels like a little seed inside of me, taking root.
It start growing and growing and maturing and gets so big it starts pushing out of me. I love this part I love, I love, I love this part. I feel so FULL. Kind of like I really, really have to pee. Ready to explode.
This is the BEFORE.
Then, when I can’t take the beautiful pressure anymore—I sit down at the computer and it comes out. It pours out onto the screen and the good news is: Now it’s out. The bad news is: It looks like crap. So I have to work. Hours and hours of work is what turns a pouring out into actual art.
THIS IS THE DURING.
When it’s finally art, I read it. I see that it’s good, because I answered the call. Then push it out into the world. I give it away. That’s it.
THERE IS NO AFTER.
It’s not time to follow my art around, making sure everyone gets it. It’s not mine to protect. I gave it away.
Now it’s time to REST. So I rest and wait for the BEFORE TO START AGAIN. I wait for the pressure to start to build again. All the magic of art is in the BEFORE, THE DURING, and the REST. Artists who spend time and energy in the imaginary AFTER tend to quit. Once again–not because they weren’t meant to be artists–but because they weren’t meant to be lawyers.
Precious Jaded: You do have enough energy to do your work.
You just don’t have enough energy to do…not your work—AND your work.
Jaded: Write these three reminders down next to your computer:
Call it Good!
“The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.” -C Joy Bell
XOXO Kayla + Amber